I tasted alcohol and its most devastating effects on the very first day I tasted Pagee Wine from St. Mary’s Lacor in Gulu, Uganda, in 1998. Pagee Wine is a local wine made from pineapple. Even though that moment happened nearly 27 years ago, just the thought of walking back into that local drinking joint in Lacor and catching a sip of Pagee Wine still sends a wave of anxiety through me. Back then, secondary schools were a breeding ground for teenage experimentation with smoking and alcohol, a lot of it fueled by the pressure to fit in with the crowd.
How
It All Began
I
joined Bishop Angelo Negri College in 1998, a prestigious boarding school I had
long admired. However, looking back, it's clear that my time at Negri College could
have easily been described as a jungle. The school was full of wild characters;
some boys chased after girls, others escaped school to drink and dance, and a
few were bookworms. We had a mix of wealthy students and those from humble
backgrounds, and without full-time teachers, things often felt out of control. During
my time in the school, all the teachers were part-timers, most of them working
at other local schools like Sacred Heart Girls Secondary School and St.
Joseph’s College Layibi.
It's
every parent's nightmare to leave their child in a school where they're
essentially left to fend for themselves. And at Negri, that was precisely the
situation. There was little oversight, resulting in a lot of mischief and poor
decision-making.
The
Fateful Day in Lacor
One
afternoon, just before the second-term break, some friends and I decided to
visit Lacor, a small trading centre west of Gulu City. Known for St. Mary's
Hospital Lacor. Everywhere you turn, you can find someone drinking or selling
local alcohol.
When
we arrived, our classmates were already in the thick of it, sipping local
alcohol and wine. Joe and I were newcomers to the scene, and when we
approached, one of the older boys, Orach Sofile, a much older classmate, warned
us against joining them. He thought we were too naïve and feared that if we got
drunk, we’d expose the rest of the boys to school. But with some convincing, we
were allowed to join in. As teenagers, the pressure to fit in was
all-consuming, and I wasn’t about to let anyone know I had never tried alcohol
before.
The
women who sold alcohol were always called by titles in Acholi, like “Min Abang”
or “Min Acii,” meaning "mother of..." It’s a respectful tradition in
Acholi culture. But there was an element of flirtation in these bars. Even
though married, some of these women flirted openly with their customers, which
struck me as odd as a teenager.
Joe
and I decided to try Pagee Wine, a sweet local wine that seemed far less
dangerous than the stronger, harsher local gin called Lujutu. Little did we
know the sweetness of Pagee Wine would mask its potency. We both began drinking
quickly, unaware of how much alcohol we were consuming. The more we sipped, the
more we felt emboldened. Orach Sofile warned us we were overdoing it, but we
shrugged him off. We were determined not to let him think we were weak. I even
remember standing on one leg, stretching my arms sideways to show I still had
my balance. Each time I stood on one leg and stretched out my arms without
staggering, I would say, "Stamina hiko mingi sana," a Swahili phrase
meaning "My stamina is very strong." It was my way of proving that I
wasn't drunk after all; if I could balance on one leg, I still had control.
Other boys cheered on, and the party continued.
But
when it was time to walk back to school, reality hit. We didn't realize the
full extent of our drunkenness until we started walking back to school. The
road was about five kilometres, and suddenly, everything seemed out of
proportion. Potholes on the road appeared like giant craters, and I needed help
to keep walking. The boys, realizing Joe and I were too drunk to continue, made
us stop near a church in the vicinity of the school, laying us down in the
compound to wait until it got dark before making our way back to the school dormitory
discreetly. We had to sneak back into school, but we were too drunk to do so
discreetly. Our loud voices betrayed us, and many boys got to know that we were
drunk.
I
was barely conscious when we got back to the school. I don't remember much from
that night except waking up the following day with a pounding headache and my
stomach growling with hunger. Classmates told me stories of how I talked a lot
and kept speaking in the English language. I couldn't believe what I'd done.
The shame was overwhelming, and I swore I'd never let it happen again. A friend
kept some food in the dormitory, but it was so bland and cold that I couldn’t eat.
To
make matters worse, some boys couldn't resist mocking Joe and me for getting
drunk. Thankfully, the school closed for the holidays, so the attention faded.
But the experience didn’t end there.
The
Bribe
The
Assistant Head Boy approached me when we returned for the next term. He knew about
our drunken escapade and, in typical teenage fashion, demanded a bribe to keep
the incident quiet. He demanded a bribe, threatening to report me to the school
administration if I didn’t pay him off, which could have meant expulsion. I was
terrified. I didn’t have the money, so I promised him I would pay once my
mother visited during the visitation day. Each visitation day, I lied to him,
claiming my mother hadn't come. Eventually, after several weeks of pressure, he
seemed to give up, realizing I wouldn't comply.
Reflecting
on the Past
Looking
back, I realize how much it shaped who I am today. I made a mistake, but I
learned from it. It taught me two important lessons: young people will make
mistakes, and second chances are crucial. I could’ve been expelled, but
instead, I was able to grow from my error. I don’t regret those mistakes
because they taught me some valuable lessons.
As
a parent now, I reflect on the importance of guiding our children through their
own mistakes. We know they'll stumble, but we also know that second chances are
vital. I was fortunate enough to get a second chance after my misstep with
alcohol, and that opportunity to learn from my mistakes has stayed with me. The
world may change, but the lessons from our mistakes are timeless.
Comments
That was a very interested story.
I thank God for your been obedient child 🙏
We all learned from your story that we shouldn't give up in life.
You are now a great man 👨.